1. Sit it out sometimes
There’s a sect of black bloggers who will forever be on the lookout for other black bloggers to excommunicate. They do this because it gives them a feeling of ownership and authority over the black anti-racist community. It seems as if every time they go after one of their own, their clout and influence gets a little stronger. I felt that pressure. After every mass call-out, it seemed like there was a roll call taken and anyone who wasn’t showing out with the group is assumed to have been on the side of the racists.
“And remember that time sixteen weeks ago when that white guy said Beyonce was overrated? Where was you then, nigga?”
I felt like I had to be involved in every little thing that went down, no matter how slight the beef was or how little it had to do with me. I felt that if I wasn’t visibly and vocally on board with every battle against the most-digusting-racist-I’ve-ever-encountered of the week, then I wasn’t doing all I could do to fight against racism.
No one is capable of maintaining that level of engagement though. That’s why you need to know that it’s okay to sit out once in awhile, or twice in awhile, or however often you want. There was a time when I felt as if no matter how depressed or anxious I was, I had to willingly expose myself to the voices of the white supremacists and neo-nazis, not because I was in the mood to humor them, but because I didn’t want anyone to ever be able to say Dion wasn’t there fighting. It’s easy to forget that the anti-racist community exists for the sake of people of color, not for the sake of the community itself.
These days, I sit out a lot, and by that I mean almost 100% of the time. That’s not to say I don’t write about racism, but I don’t engage anyone in debates on my humanity. I’ve realized there’s no benefit in it for me. That kind of thing has a place, but not everyone is cut out for it. That doesn’t make them any better or any worse: just different."
YOOOO THIS IS SO RELEVANT.
SO FUCKING RELEVANT.
I see this shit happen every few weeks on my dash and it’s fucking DISGUSTING because it takes away from the actual shit that should be being discussed. And there are some who are still here that are using these discussions as a vehicle for other forms of abuse and bullying. And don’t think we don’t see that shit.
Yeah, I don’t buy into this either. The last time there was a mass pileup with people saying, “if you don’t crucify this person then unfollow me…” I did.
Best choice ever.(via apihtawikosisan)